Category Archives: Personal Reflections

Beginning To Live For The First Time

A Christmas morning reflection via Richard Rohr that perfectly captures the power and glory of Christmas:

On this Christmas Day, let me begin with a quote from the twentieth-century writer G. K. Chesterton:  “When a person has found something which he prefers to life itself, he for the first time has begun to live.”

Jesus in his proclamation of the kingdom told us what we could prefer to life itself.  The Bible ends by telling us we are called to be a people who could say, “Come, Lord Jesus” (Revelation 22:20), who could welcome something more than business as usual and live in God’s Big Picture.  We all have to ask for the grace to prefer something to our small life because we have been offered the Shared Life, the One Life, the Eternal Life, God’s Life that became visible for us in this world as Jesus.

What we are all searching for is Someone to surrender to, something we can prefer to life itself.  Well here is the wonderful surprise:  God is the only one we can surrender to without losing ourselves.  The irony is that we actually and finally find ourselves, but now in a whole new and much larger field of meaning.


Farewell to Facebook?

When I studied for a year at the Institute for Christian Studies, one of my assigned readings was The Fall of Interpretation by James K.A. Smith.  I remember really enjoying Smith’s perspective as well as his writing style, and I ‘ve followed his rise to his current positions of Professor of Philosophy, Calvin College and Executive Director, Society of Christian Philosophers.  His latest book Desiring the Kingdom is on my to-read list and was recently awarded The Word Guild Award in Leadership/Theoretical, as well the Christianity Today 2010 Book Award in Theology/Ethics.

I happened upon a recent blog of his entitled “Farewell to Facebook,” where Smith provides a brief overview of why he has decided to delete his Facebook account after only a few months.  He writes:

There are multiple factors in this decision. For instance, I finally joined Facebook to stay connected with my son who left for college. But now everything I know about him through Facebook I wish I didn’t! I also find that Facebook has taken away from what blogging I did–and I think blogging is a much better exercise for a writer than dashing off status updates.

Later he candidly admits:

Facebook plays into all of my vices: my pride and arrogance, my self-centeredness, my penchant for vainglory. Most of all, Facebook feeds and fuels my addictive personality, especially when it comes to communication.

Email, as you can imagine, took this to ridiculous new levels, precisely because email can arrive 24 hours a day. You can guess what this does to someone who’s already addictively fixated on snail mail that arrives just once a day. Facebook, of course, just added another layer of fixation on such “connection,” while also creating a quick and easy outlet for expression that is always a veiled cry for attention.

And closes his post with the following:

What’s at issue here is precisely the fact that Facebook is an environment of practice which inculcates in us certain habits which then shape our orientation to the world–indeed, they make our worlds. So, in the spirit of Desiring the Kingdom, I started to take a “practices audit” of my Facebook patterns. The results weren’t pretty.

While I certainly can appreciate several of Smith’s concerns (namely the issues of pride and addictive patterns being amplified through Facebook), I tend to see moves like his to be overreactions.  Sure, deleting Facebook is probably a valid exercise for some people, but there’s are many reasons why social networks are so popular, and those reasons extend beyond the immediacy of communication or the ability to share “veiled cries for attention” (a comment of Smith’s that I felt was a bit telling). 

Facebook, like any social network, comes with all sorts of challenges and opportunities.  The potential for abuse and misuse is enormous, but in what area of life is this not the case?  I don’t think Facebook challenges us with anything new.  At their heart social networks disclose our longing to “not be alone” (Gen. 2:18) and often reveal creative ways of connecting that are real and legitimate, although different from face-to-face communication.

I’m a deeply vain person myself, so I appreciated Smith’s candor at this point.  I’d love it if others liked, respected, and admired me.  Facebook does provide a vehicle through which I can self-promote and self-proclaim to help achieve those ends.  But over time–and because I’ve stuck with it–I’ve learned to confront those demons that Facebook initially spurned in me.  Was Facebook the problem?  Hardly.  Facebook simply amplified what was already inside:  pride and vanity.  I imagine that had I, out of righteous intentions, deleted my Facebook account when I became aware of it’s pull on these areas, my heart would have found a way to celebrate the fact that I was “above” people who used Facebook to prop up their self-esteem, pride, and ego.  I would have found a way to see my deletion of Facebook as evidence of being spiritually elite.

And that’s why I stick with it.  Not because the temptations aren’t there, but because we need Christians who are willing to think deeply and Christianly about social networks while participating in them.  The Facebook’s of the world aren’t going away, and I’m not a fan of the “this could be troublesome, so let’s jump ship” mode of Christian “engagement” with culture.

Kudos to James K.A. Smith if he honestly believes his life and discipleship practice is enhanced by walking away from Facebook.  Personally, I wish he would have decided differently, because his voice is a desperately needed one that could be deep vision and wisdom to those of us desiring the kingdom in this sphere of life.


Thrones and High Chairs

I’ve been listening through Richard Rohr’s CD set “Fire from Heaven” over the last few weeks.  It’s a recording from a men’s retreat that focused on helping men (re)claim their identity in Christ.  It’s definitely geared towards those middle-aged and beyond, but I’ve found the talks very helpful on a number of levels.

A few days ago, I had the CD playing in my car, and in the midst of talking about men, authority, and leadership, Rohr just kind of threw out a metaphor and moved on.  I guess when you have tomes of wisdom, you can’t stop to unpack each insight, but his “throwaway” really struck me.

Rohr was discussing men and the two ways they veer towards holding leadership, authority, and power in their lives.  He said all men at some deep, unconscious level, want to be kings.  By kings, Rohr was referring to the archetypal king who embodies wisdom, justice, power, authority and grace.  Rohr mentioned that men will either occupy high chairs or thrones, depending on which path of spiritual growth they take (or refuse to take).

He said if men don’t mature beyond a “what’s in it for me?” worldview and grow up in God–really grow up–they’ll  likely become “high-chair tyrants” when they find themselves in positions of leadership.  The feet of a child in a high chair never touch the ground.  A high chair tyrant is childish and isn’t connected to reality–he isn’t grounded.  He usually lives out of arrogance and ignorance (I think this is a good summation of a lot of leadership in our world today).  One of the problems with high-chair tyrants is that they are unaware of how disconnected and ungrounded they are.  When someone is brave enough to confront them, any challenge is dismissed because it’s coming from one of the “common folk.”

However, Rohr notes that one of the main differences between a high chair and a throne is that, when sitting on a throne, one’s feet touch the ground.  A king is literally grounded, in touch with the earth, the community–it touch with what is real.   His authority, power and leadership are rooted in his experience with the earth (i.e., reality), and not his own ideas or ego-driven assumptions.

My experience tells me that the high chair will always be tempting, because it offers a shortcut to attention and authority without much work.  Just get a title or a position and start bossing people around–after all, you’re in control now!  You can even throw tantrums and often get what you want because of fear.

But the path towards kingship, the path that will shape us into leaders who are grounded in truth and live to serve while holding our kingdoms together, that path demands deep soul work.  It means confronting demons and a relentless commitment to live in reality, not in the fantasy of what we’d prefer.  Easier said than done, especially as one comes into successive levels of power and authority.

May we seek the narrow way; the way of the King.  Through his leadership, may we be refined into men who sit on thrones and not high chairs.


Submitting My Manuscript

After self-publishing Mere Disciple this past summer, I started putting together an official manuscript submission for Christian publishers in order to see if someone would be interested in picking it up.  I discovered that all of the significant Christian publishers routinely comb through the manuscripts found at, so that’s where I started to put together my proposal.

Early into the process I decided to get some professional advice through an “author management company,” and  was eventually connected to Jenni Burke from D.C. Jacobson and Associates.  Part of her speciality is helping to craft quality proposals that “stick out” to potential publishers.

For the last few months we’ve gone back and forth editing and tweaking the Mere Disciple manuscript, and today all the necessary changes were formalized and the process was completed.  For the next six months literary agents from the major Christian publishing houses will be able to view my proposal and decide whether or not they’d like to follow up with me.

Working with Jenni was a great experience.  She was certainly tough on me at points, but she definitely took what would have been a ho-hum submission and made it something much more coherent and attractive to potential publishers.  As an added bonus, my manuscript was awarded the special silver “Critiqued & Edited” badge.  With thousands of manuscripts live on the site at any one time, these badges help publishers identify projects that have been professionally evaluated and deemed worthy of a publisher’s investment.

I’ve always seen Mere Disciple as a personal project and gift to the emerging leaders at Grindstone.  However, it’s been extremely rewarding to hear that its influence has extended beyond Grindstone to many people (both young and old) who’ve shared with me the impact it’s had on their lives.  Although it’s rough around the edges in parts, I still see an enormous potential for Mere Disciple to be a foundational resource in the lives of emerging leaders.  I hope a publisher out there agrees with me and is willing to help me nurture the book’s full potential.

I’ll keep everyone updated on any rumblings that occur over the next six months.


We Are All Immigrants

The following reflection is an important one during this (U.S.) Thanksgiving holiday, especially in light of the debates that are occuring in both the United States and Canada related to immigration laws and reforms to the immigration system:

“Yahweh and the prophets repeatedly warned the Jews never to forget their own former status as foreigners in Egypt.  It is into this history that Jesus is born and becomes an immigrant in a foreign land himself along with Mary and Joseph in Egypt (Matthew 2:15).  It is astounding one-sidedness, and even chosen blindness, that allows pious Christians to forget and ignore this.

A Christian by identification with Jesus must by necessity identify with those that he called ‘blessed’ by at least four different standards (Matthew 5:3-6, 10).  He told us that if we did not ‘welcome the stranger’ we were ‘cursed’ (Matthew 25:40), and yet, this has had almost no effect on the typical Christian’s attitude toward outsiders in almost all countries. 

I have little patience with people who call the USA a Christian nation when I see our attitude toward the very poor who are doing all the hard jobs that we are unwilling to do. Such self serving hypocrisy will meet a firm judgment later, and deserves our judgment now.

‘Remember, remember always, that all of us, and you and I especially, are descended from immigrants and revolutionists.’  (President Franklin Roosevelt to the Daughters of the American Revolution in 1939).  Remember, the Pilgrims we Americans celebrate on this National Day of Thanksgiving were immigrants, too!”

~ Fr. Richard Rohr, A Lever and a Place to Stand (CD) and Contemplation in Action (book).

We are all foreigners, and we are all called to show hospitality.  We are all strangers, and we are all called to welcome and bless.  We are all immigrants, and we are all called to build community–and hope–with our neighbours.